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A Quantum Shift In The Wrong Direction by Folarin Oluwatimilehin.

  Redefining the institution of Christian marriage   It was a bright Saturday. Whether I knew the celebrant or not, I had no idea. But all I could remember was that I fell into a reverie. Possibly, and more accurately, it was an unperceived consternation. The syncopated sound of the trumpet saturated the atmosphere and captivated my heart.  The blissful melodic resonances suddenly took me away, and strangely, I set my eyes on two men: one dressed in a stunning black suit, while the other man was decorated in a red shining gown. Making a 45 degree turn to my younger brother, I could read the heavy lines around his eyes. We were both shocked by what we were seeing. A man marrying a man was the weirdest thing we have ever experienced. Thankfully, we were watching the wedding on the television, and it only cost me to press a button on the remote to save our eyes from the strange thing we saw. According to Merriam Webster’s student Dictionary, marriage is the legal relationship which a man and a woman enter for the purpose of making a home and often for raising a family. Usually, marriage can be described as an obligation between a man and a woman, stalwartly reinforced with love, support, care, togetherness, tolerance, and coherence. A family birthed from marriage represents a colossal of fused idiosyncrasies enduring the storms of life to create a better tomorrow for the coming generations. All of the highlighted explanations were all missing in the strange wedding we found ourselves watching on a Saturday morning. “… what you think is right isn’t the same as knowing what is right.”― E.A. Bucchianeri “Act11:26 – And when he had found him, he brought him unto Antioch. And it came to pass, that a whole year they assembled themselves with the church, and taught many people. And the disciples were called Christians first in Antioch” Undoubtedly, there are countless numbers of faith-based organizations in the world, and the religious disparity boils down to various individual beliefs that extensively have some attachments to the supernatural being which they put their faith in.  However, Christianity as it is widely well-known due to its origin can be traced back to Jesus Christ – a unique paranormal being that came to the world for the redemption of sin.  No doubt, Christianity is a respected religion that is soaked in the reality of Almighty God, who tremendously manifests as an omnipresent, omnipotent, and omniscient creature.   Being a young boy who grew up in a Christian home, homosexuality is one of the most prohibited acts widely talked about. Shockingly, Pope Francis’s endorsement for same-sex civil unions, which was first revealed from an interview in 2019, and was premiered in a broadcast on October 21st, 2020, has stolen the subject of discussion. The news came all of a sudden, graduated from a shock to a decision that seems to have come to stay. No one expected that such pronouncement will come from a reputable pope so much that the entire world, especially the Christian faith was thrown into discombobulation. Exasperatingly, Pope Francis who is vehemently aware of what is right decided to fall victim of beating around what he contemplates to be right due to pressure from the LGBTQ group. This has, however, questioned the much respect many people have for the Christian community. The decision to legalize same-sex civil union has harvested extensive media attention and robust antiphons if truly the legacy Jesus laid-down for the Christians has faded, or gradually overthrown by the pressure from some set of wealthy individuals. While some people have reiterated their outright rejection of the Pope’s decision, some still erroneously think the announcement vibrated profoundly the beginning of a mutually inclusive worship atmosphere for all. So sad that the world of the Christian faith seems to be tearing away from the intended purpose it was created. At the point, we need to understand that standing by what we truly know to be right should be undiluted! “Wrong does not cease to be wrong because the majority share in it.”― Leo Tolstoy “2 Timothy 3:16-17 – “All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness.” It is quite disheartening and paradoxical that Christianity has been immensely abused by the influx of corrupt minds using the religion as a means to fuel their selfish interest rather than upholding the truth embedded in the Holy Bible. Fundamentally, there are three key conceptions about marriage which include: procreation (having children), problem-solving, and purposeful unification. Yet, some set of people want these basic concepts about marriage to be defiled by endorsing the idea of same-sex civil union. This is not just abuse of the serenity of the Christian faith, but also, an obstruction to the strong possibilities of the expansion of human beings on the face of the earth. Can the union between the same gender lead to childbirth? Definitely, No! Within the perimeter of the church, Pope Francis has activated cruel reactions from the Catholics who are afraid that his steps might divide the church or even fragment it. After meticulously pillaging my environment, I found out that we have entered an era where ample numbers of people find pleasure in things that seem to be culturally erroneous. For the preservation of the future, we need to make it sink into our mind that “Wrong does not cease to be wrong because of the majority share in it.”   “Right is right even if no one is doing it; wrong is wrong even if everyone is doing it.” ― Saint Augustine “Gen2:23-24 – And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” Francis, who happens to be

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Unworthy In Character. #SexForMarks

The mediocre teacher tells. The good teacher explains. The superior teacher demonstrates. The great teacher inspires. ~ William Arthur Ward Stop mentioning my name! Why would a lecturer be wary of his name being mentioned over the phone by a student if there was nothing inappropriate about the conversation? Did he feel the student was being disrespectful by not addressing him as Prof in the usual Nigerian parlance? Or perhaps he is too experienced in such amatory conversations that he suspected it could be recorded? I can imagine the wry grin on the lady’s face when he said that, she would be a learner if she didn’t expect that line. For obvious reasons the news about Professor Akindele’s alleged sex for marks scandal did not surprise many. If you passed through a Nigerian university you will know that this is not an isolated case. What is supposed to be a four year period of study for many ladies is rather a labyrinthine jaunt laced with the ugly side of machismo. Sadly, such incidents are more or less passive stories garishly discussed in canteens and beer parlours across most of our universities. “Its normal now” you ‘ll likely hear from one of the guys huddled around a table full of green bottles. “The babe should have just shagged the brains out of the old man” another will say. “Who knows, he could have been p-whipped into giving an A after just one round” yet another will add, followed by a loud laughter and booze continues. That’s about it, end of story! And on social media, there is also a possibility of being presented with alternative facts to make the victim look like the culprit. The debate will then deviate from the alleged offence to a callow display of chauvinism between fluky feminists and lousy misogynists. Or worse still the lecturer’s church member or Pastor will boldly defend him by claiming that “the lady purposely set him up” and that he is “a man of God, who is too gentle for such act”. The absurdities we often contend with in Nigeria. Of course, we are all aware of what goes on in our institutions of higher learning. The so-called slay-queens are known to entice lecturers regularly in a bid to make unbelievable grades when they can’t even spell their course of study.  However, we shouldn’t make this particular incident about them. The lady in question scored 35 marks. She failed and should be encouraged to re-sit the course, that is the proper thing to do. So she has not committed any offence. The offence here is that a lecturer, a professor for that matter is demanding sex as a bribe to give better grades. Someone once said that lecturers are demi-gods while the Vice-Chancellor is the almighty. It is almost true. Our lecturers are way too powerful. I remember one who was notorious for this back in my uni days. He couldn’t care less if the lady was single or married. He just insisted on having his way, and like Akindele he demands in multiples. A lady friend of mine was his victim. She spent extra two years in school because she refused to have sex with him. I am talking about a lady whom I know to be a serious student. On one occasion when he rejected her coursework, it was only my intervention through his wife that made him reconsider. Incidentally, the man was fired a few years later, but only after he must have raped many ladies and frustrated others out of school. If he had a good relationship with the Vice-Chancellor then, chances are that he would have retained his job but I learnt they didn’t see eye to eye so he got sacked. Serious institutions should never allow these type of acts to go unchecked and it was gladdening to read that OAU swiftly set up a committee to investigate the matter. Obafemi Awolowo University is among the few etched in gold dating back to our colonial history. It has to ensure that this embarrassment is properly dealt with to limit the smudge on its stellar reputation. It will be better still to hear from the National Association of Nigerian Students. They are supposed to have the students’ back in matters like this. The National Universities Commission should also set up an independent apparatus for the appraisal of not just issues like this, but many others between students and lecturers. A lot of times students are blamed for the quality of graduates we produce. They are labeled as unintelligent and indifferent. While that may be true lecturers also constitute a huge part of the problem. If a graduand must be found worthy in character and learning to be awarded a degree, how much much more a university don? A lecturer should be an embodiment of all that is good in a society, and not a person found to be unworthy in character. Professor Akindele should come out of hiding and face the music.

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